"Your 20's are your 'selfish' years. It's a decade to immerse yourself in every single thing possible. Be selfish with your time, and all aspects of you. Tinker with shit, travel, explore, love a lot, love a little, and never touch the ground." - Kyoko Escamilla
Only two years into my twenties, but I am slowly realizing why Kyoko Escamilla deemed a decade of our lives as our "selfish years." It's because the greatest life experiences and scariest life transitions happen in this decade. A lot can happen in your twenties. And a lot can happen just two years into your twenties.
"I t ' s a d e c a d e t o i m m e r s e y o u r s e l f i n e v e r y s i n g l e t h i n g p o s s i b l e."
Whatever it may be: coffee shops, cuisines, books, museums, planes to somewhere new, your life's passions, your relationships, old friendships, new friendships and your parents. Whatever it is that grows you and makes you the happiest version of yourself, as long as YOU love it, immerse yourself in it. Absorb every good feeling, knowledge, experience, self-discovery and lesson that comes from it all. Life is way too short to waste a decade of your time not doing a single thing you love.
"B e s e l f i s h w i t h y o u r t i m e, a n d a l l a s p e c t s o f y o u."
Know your self-worth, know the value of your time and know who to spend it with. Understand that the only people worthy of your time are those that respect you and your feelings and who you are to them. Some people come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime. And when you know which one it is, you'll know how much effort to put into that person. As a human being, it's easy to have this natural notion to always think about others before yourself. Know that it's okay to be selfish sometimes. Learn to not dwell on people that bring only unhappiness and dissatisfaction to your life. They can continue their negativity and self-pride without your acknowledgement. Their hateful words are only reflections of their character. Never allow anyone to make you feel less than yourself. They cannot make you feel inferior without your consent. Life is way too short to waste a decade of your time caring about people who doesn't see your worth. But a decade is even shorter if spent with people you don't truthfully respect and wholeheartedly love. What do relationships like that really amount to?
"T i n k e r w i t h s h i t, t r a v e l, e x p l o r e, l o v e a l o t, l o v e a l i t t l e, a n d n e v e r t o u c h t h e g r o u n d."
Although I can only vouch for the first two years so far, your twenties will be filled with repairs and improvements. In all aspects of your life, you will learn which one is worth your effort. It's important to immerse yourself in every single thing that makes you love yourself more and makes your heart the happiest. Be selfish with your time. Nobody can be there for you unless you're there for yourself. Nobody can care about a single thought that goes on in your head unless you're honest with yourself. Learn when people and things deserve you to love them a whole lot or love them very, very little. Work real hard at your job and save enough money for a plane ticket to somewhere new. Inhale the good and exhale the bad. Know when to be selfish.